Self-love comes in many shapes and forms, and all shapes and forms are equally valid. As long as they make you feel more love and compassion, they’re self-love.
But, to help you get started.
1. Acknowledge How You Feel
Trying to deny, hide or fight how you actually feel will only make you feel worse. Being honest with yourself, on the other hand, will calm you down. Simply saying out loud, or to yourself, “I feel anxious”, will give the feeling less power over you and make you feel like you’ve got this. Also, saying “I feel anxious” rather than “I am anxious” will remind you that it is just an emotion that eventually will pass and that it is not a permanent state of your being.
2. Drop the Pressure
It’s also normal for you to struggle to focus and get things done. As per the previous point, simply allow yourself to feel what you feel and do what you can. If that is very little, that is okay. If that is a lot, that is fine, too. Trust your intuition and creativity and let them tell you what and how much you can do right now.
3. Practice Positive Self-Talk
Beware of your mind chatter. If you hear it, ask yourself, “Is this something I would say to my best friend?”. If the answer is no, ask yourself, “What loving thing would I say to my friend to show my support for her?” – and then say that to yourself. You can easily become your own worst enemy, and that is the last thing you need right now. Remember to be your own best friend and only use words of love.
4. Limit Your Media Intake
It’s easy to get even more addicted to news and social media today. But you have to stop yourself from this. Otherwise, your mood will be dictated by what you consume and your mind will be cluttered with negativity. This is not a loving thing to do. Instead, try to start and end your day without any media intake. Furthermore, limit how often you check your social media and the news, give yourself a time limit for how long you’re allowed to do it. Make sure your feed isn’t all doom and gloom. If it is, add more inspiring, positivity inducing accounts to your stream. You deserve it.
5. Take Good Care of Your Body
The uncertainty around you can cause havoc in your body. That’s why it’s more important than ever to take extra good care of it. Move it daily however you can, get plenty of sleep, eat nutritiously, and hydrate with plenty of water. All of this will also help your immune system to stay strong.
6. Practice Self-Care Daily
On top of the basic things you do to stay healthy and fit, also practice specific forms of self-care. These are things like taking a long hot bath, having a mindful walk in nature, practicing mindfulness, or doing a beauty ritual on your face or body. All of these help you to feel good about yourself, which in turn helps you to feel calmer and more content. Finally, this also reminds you that you are worthy of self-care and self-love.
Oh so simple but oh so powerful. Taking long, deep breaths are the best possible remedy for stress and anxiety. They are scientifically proven to lower your heart rate, relax the muscles in your body, and refocus your mind. That means inhaling for four counts, holding for seven, and exhaling for eight. If this feels hard at the start, do each bit for shorter counts and work your way up to 4-7-8. This is also an effective breathing technique to use for insomnia if you struggle to sleep.
Finally, remind yourself that you alone are enough. More than enough. And you have nothing to prove to anyone. Especially in a time like today. Reconnect with what’s good for you right now. Reconnect with your self-love.